How To Achieve True Happiness From
Within
It is too bad that after you hear, “I now pronounce you
husband and wife” it isn’t followed with a handing out of an instruction
manual. How much easier would it be if we had one of those manuals to get
through life? Everybody would be in a perfect relationship, children would be
very well behaved, and there would be no prisons. But, fortunately or
unfortunately, however you want to look at it, we all have free will. Let’s not
forget, we also have the pursuit of happiness. Thomas Jefferson said so.
However, I do believe that we take that part of the Constitution too literal.
Some men and some women will use that line as a way to
excuse their infidelities in their marriage. “It’s my right to try and be
happy.” It may be your right, but aren’t you possibly going about it the wrong
way?
If we believed that other people are responsible for making
us happy, then this would be a justifiable excuse for infidelity. Yet, this is
not the case; we are only responsible for our own happiness.
No marriage is without its ups and downs. I know this
because we’ve had our share of ups and downs in my own marriage. I want my
husband to be happy, as he wants the same for me. We do things for each other in
the hopes that it will make the other one happy. Yet, if one of us is
displeased in our relationship or more importantly with ourselves, nothing we
can do for the other will make us happy. In fact, trying to make the other half
happy will only result in agitation from him or her and exhaust us from all
those attempts to make the other happy.
Happiness comes from within us, not from other people or
things. To be exact, it is nobody else’s responsibility to make you happy but
yourself. Think for a minute, what makes you happy? Puppy kisses, a call from a
loved one, a nice breeze on a summer day, or maybe a warm bath on a chilly
night? How long do these things make you happy several seconds, hours, what
about a day? These are moments in life that are good to have and leave us
feeling happy, but it isn’t true happiness.
To achieve true happiness we must have peace of mind. We
must be secure with ourselves and we must realize that what life hands us,
whether it is a goal met or a disastrous event, we will come through it just
fine with new goals and plans in place. Life is nothing more than a ride. It
can be a an amusement park ride with many ups and downs and twists or it can be
a smooth slow moving ferry boat ride. It’s your choice. It’s your journey. Have
faith in yourself that you will be able to get through anything life throws at
you.
When you have peace within yourself those puppy kisses, that
long awaited phone call, the cool breeze on a warm summer day, or the warm bath
on a chilly night will be all that more appreciated.
The lesson to learn is that we cannot be truly happy with
others if we’re not happy with our own self. Why? Because, we can’t recognize
that those little moments of happiness are not true happiness. We will want
those little moments to last forever, which is impossible. We may even keep
trying to find those little moments in other things, such as overspending,
gambling, or other self-destructive ways.
If you are unhappy, look inward at yourself, not outward at
the other people in your life or the things you do or don’t have, then change
what needs to be changed to give you true happiness. Be kind to yourself.
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